CHAT: Individual and social relationships marriage/marriage or being married 1st Group Who decides on marriage? Father If the mother is against it,they are still married off, but if more people in the household are against it, it may not be happening. You are a child yourself. You cannot live your childhood. It is very tiring. [A man] who marries before the age of 18 will work harder and provide for the family. Betrothal or engagement before marriage One or two years. 4 years at most. There are 6 to 9 months between the engagement and the wedding. During this time, the dowry and the house are being prepared. “Kına” (a kind of ceremony/celebration night) is done before the wedding. You learn from your mother how to take care of a baby. Civil marriage - religious ceremony Firstly, there is an “imam” marriage. 2 days or at most 3 months later, the official marriage takes place. Place of residence after marriage With the in-laws: with the in-laws In a separate house In the same family apartment Education Does a married girl/boy continue school? Is marriage an obstacle to continue education? They drop out of school [when they get married]. Most of them are in high school. If the boy continues school, he cannot work, he cannot bring money home. 57 Marriage after 18 When you are a child, marriage seems impossible/unusual. You wonder about it. When you grow up, you don't want it right away because your mind works, your curiosity wanes, you have seen it. E LY Ç KLARLA A TÖ CU O