CHAT: Individual and social relationships marriage/marriage or being married 2nd Group There is a change. What the mothers went through [violence-oppression] their children did not suffer. Age of marriage In this area/neighbourhood 13-14 18 20 15-16 20-21 According to the adults Female 25 22 30 after 18 Male 20 18 after the military service 15-16 Your opinion Female 25 20 18 22 Male 22 18-19 25-26 Age difference Peer 1 or 2 years Reasons for marriage before 18 years old she drops out of school, then family says: get married. so that the girl can be saved [financially] for love: dating is not considered appropriate. to get rid of family interference, bullying, pressure. Who decides on marriage? father / mother own: “I should get married” grandmother / grandfather neighbours put pressure (social pressure) Betrothal or engagement before marriage 1.5 or two years. It's an engagement to get to know each other. They can also get married directly. At the engagement, the “bride price” is collected if the male side is willing to give it. During this period, the dowry and the house are being prepared, furniture is bought. The day before the wedding, “kına” is organised. Civil marriage - religious ceremony First, a religious marriage is performed. They wait until they are 18 years old. Then the official marriage is performed. They don't interfere with men (before and after 18). They always interfere with Place of residence after marriage With the male spouse’s family In their own [separate] home girls and women. 58 E LY Ç KLARLA A TÖ CU O